“Why are u such a lost child”. Those were the words of my brother couple days ago, I didn’t know whether he was joking or being serious all I know was his words were filled with truth. I have been so lost these past few months. I went to the RIS conference hoping to get my head straight and get my life back on track but instead I got tangled up even more. Last year if anyone asked what I was going to do with my life, I had all the answers. I was going to study engineering had someone in mind to get married with and go and study Arabic with. I new everything, but I guess we can plan all we want if it’s not what Allah has planned then it’s not happening.
Today at school I was in Library studying with good friends of mine and the whole topic of what u are doing came up. I said I was actually really contemplating going into Education. The looks that I got from there face, what are u doing ur ruing ur life. U can be an engineer and live a comfortable life instead u want to be a teacher. Who’s going to give there daughter to u. the gave me so many reason, why I should not go to education that I just blocked it out. I was so ignorant. I just ignored there advice because I ve heard it soo many times. That ur ruining ur life, think about the future and so on. Sometimes I just want to go into engineering why cuz it’s the easy way out and it makes everyone around me happy except for me. I Dunno I guess that’s life. But the few who understand me have given me outstanding advice saying I should pursue whatever I love. Tariq Suwadien said in RIS that got me thinking “if u go into something u don’t love u can succeed but u wont’ be creative”. If ur not creative how are u going to excel in that particular field and if u don’t excel how r u going to help Ummah. I guess I will wait to see what Allah has in stored for me.
Salaams
Today at school I was in Library studying with good friends of mine and the whole topic of what u are doing came up. I said I was actually really contemplating going into Education. The looks that I got from there face, what are u doing ur ruing ur life. U can be an engineer and live a comfortable life instead u want to be a teacher. Who’s going to give there daughter to u. the gave me so many reason, why I should not go to education that I just blocked it out. I was so ignorant. I just ignored there advice because I ve heard it soo many times. That ur ruining ur life, think about the future and so on. Sometimes I just want to go into engineering why cuz it’s the easy way out and it makes everyone around me happy except for me. I Dunno I guess that’s life. But the few who understand me have given me outstanding advice saying I should pursue whatever I love. Tariq Suwadien said in RIS that got me thinking “if u go into something u don’t love u can succeed but u wont’ be creative”. If ur not creative how are u going to excel in that particular field and if u don’t excel how r u going to help Ummah. I guess I will wait to see what Allah has in stored for me.
Salaams
posted by nawid at 7:42 PM
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A lost child?
Welcome to these lonely shores. Enjoy the scenery. Stick around for a bit, you don't have much choice :).
pray istikharah, make a decision and go forth with all you've got...
fi idha azamta, fa tawakal 'al Allah
"Then, when thou hast taken a decision put thy trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)" (Q. 3:159)
it sounds like i over-simplify the matter...but really, it is that simple...do your research...make a decision... and ‘trust your heart’
istafti qalbak walow aftouk an nas
"trust your heart, even if people give fatwas"
it's not a lost cause, akhi... :-)
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You can definetly live a comfortable life with being an engineer but is that what you want?
If it's not that how can that be called comfortable and about the question 'who is going to give their daughter to you', allah(swt) has already some one for you and keeping that fact in mind, why would u want to marry someone's daughter who would accept u only if u are an engineer and not for the values that u have as an human being, no matter for what u are a teacher or an engineer, in the end the only thing that matters is if u lived your life as a good muslim brother and followed Allah(swt), his messenger Prophet Muhammad(pbuh), and the Quran. No matter what people want to see u as, pursue what u like, what u can suceed in and what will benefit u and your life, with all of this have the trust in Allah and He(swt) will inshallah give you the best in life.
Haha I knew this would be on here...form our conversaion in the library
Nawid, My brother,
The only reason I can think of, for you to go into something more "glamorous", is so that you can show the world that Muslims can hold "higher, distinguished" positions in society. By holding that "higher" position you have more authority and can spread the message of Islam better.
If a Muslim doctor, engineer and teacher try to explain Islam on, lets say, TV non-muslims and Muslims alike will be more impressed, more willing to listen and will respect the doctor or engineer's advice rather than the teacher's...
Which in my opinion is a good reason for Dawah not for worldly glamour.
Another reason could be parents, obeying parents is a fard as long as they don't obstruct you from practicing deen....
Other than that there is no reason not to follow your heart, the thing about not getting married or ruining your life are just garbage excuses
P.S. About being lost, 99% of the students in University are lost... so welcome to the first steps of after high school life :)
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your face is wierd!
ookkkk so yeah odd how our library convo got here but its all good...let me start off by saying that your not the only one lost...WE ALL ARE!!! thats why that convo started in the first place. you along with us are all trying to make the rite decision about our futures..and yes i agree it was stupid for us to bring up the marriage part becuase its true, you should only marry sumone who will accept you for who you are and wat you do not how much money is in your bank account. regardless ive thought over our conversation and i think if you truly believe that becoming a teacher will make you happy and thats how you want to become a better muslim then by all means go for it...dont let anything stop you! especially not us. if you want to go into engineering go for it, if you wanna move to london and become a doctor do it, if you wanna go to medina and study do it...but just dont forget about wat truly makes you happy because regardless of wat people say you have to be content with your own life because your the one living it!
Mmmm... sorry to have offended you so Mr. Anonymous. I'm going into Uni soon myself, so I'll be joining the club.
Something tells me you're not in Uni though, but thats just me.
But anyway. Thanks for the comment. How could I be ever so ignorant to display pics of myself so freely.
Still learnin'. Still learning
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obedience to parents is indeed a fard. many parents, however, are willing to come to terms with their children becoming something other than a doctor or engineer...they may be happier , but entering a field one's parents aren't particularly fond of does not necessarily constitute disobedience.
By holding that "higher" position you have more authority and can spread the message of Islam better.
If a Muslim doctor, engineer and teacher try to explain Islam on, lets say, TV non-muslims and Muslims alike will be more impressed, more willing to listen and will respect the doctor or engineer's advice rather than the teacher's...
what exactly defines a "higher" position? one that has more "authority"? i would argue that of the three aforementioned professions, teaching holds the most authority. sure, it may not gain the most respect within the community or at uncle/aunty-infested dawats (excuse the uncomplimentary language), but it nonetheless holds the most potential for "da'wah"
most effective da'wah is done at a grassroots level...not on TV. for some reason, our community holds fast to the persistent myth that "a successful professional is more likely to succeed at da'wah" i don't see the correlation...for most professionals, opportunity to intimately interact with individuals outside their respective work environments is rare; that's true for doctors, engineers, teachers, and everyone else. with respect to one's profession (since that usually has no relation to one’s effectiveness in da’wah), the question should then be of opportunity, rather than image.
a teacher, through the course of a day, has the attention of anywhere between 30-100 young, impressionable youth, most of whom are oblivious to the Truth. that carries potential...not to necessarily overtly 'preach Islam', per se...but instead, to spark a desire within students to seek the Truth...and that's where our responsibility lies-- wa ma 'alka ill albalaagh "you have but to convey the message"
a more personal reflection: our community is inflated with doctors & engineers...i mean, inflated...packed to the max...we need to diversify.
well said.
i agree that the community should not look down on individuals based on occupation or social status. a good example of a muslim teacher of repute is hani ramadan, tariq ramadan's brother.
This is billy bob from Yukon and i would like to start by saying HEY!
“Why are u such a lost child”, my answer is, who isn't! We all have our issues and the constant contemplation of "what if". We all have our daily struggles/achievements and that's what makes everyone different. Again this ties back to your question of "what is failure?" My question to you is, what is success? They are reciprocal of one another but we can agree that it varies with each individual and are dependent on the individuals up bringing, environment, personality, and comfort zone. Needless to say, we are all different and one man's waste is another man's treasure. Therefore, contemplate all you want but dont loss perspective, that is be greatful for the opportunities that Allah (SWT) has provided for you/to you. Do the math, what percentage of the youth your grade, is fortunate to say "I'm going to university"!!! Having said so, please do not take that words as an insult, im not saying that arent greatful, but I'm saying look outside the bubble.
Personally, I'm an engineer and i did because of the money and "job security" it provides. Upto this day, i still contemplate leaving the profession and doing things i have a passion for. Having said so, becoming an engineer has made me a stronger individual and has opened alot of other avenues and therefore it was a great decision EVENTHOUGH IT WASNT MY FIRST OPTION...MAMA RAISED NO FOUL!!!!
Engineering is a great profession and it gives you alot of time to enjoy other hobbies. And today, Alhamdolallah, Im much stronger and I have a better chance of following my heart!!!
THE ROCK,
The absent minded tripped on it.
The violent one used it as a weapon.
The entrepreneur built with it.
The tired farmer, used it as a seat.
for the children it was a toy.
Drummond wrote about it.
Michealangelo used it to make a beautiful sculpture.
In all cases, the difference was not in the rock, but in the man/women.
There is not a rock in your path that you can't use to your benefit.
In other words...ITS NOT THE ROCKS FAULT!
PS> ITS COLD IN YUKON!!! How is the weather there?
"All of you are lost, except whom I guide - so seek guidance from Me, and I will guide you."
Hadith Qudsi.
update:@
We are only here temporarily so do what it is that will bring you contentment so you can be a better Muslim. Forget others because your the one who has to live your life, not them. They dont know what lies deep within you and what your heart truly yearns for...only you and Allah swt does. On the Day of Judgement, its only you alone who stands before Him...do what it is that will help you make Him most pleased with you.
And dont be fooled that going into engineering is the easy way out. I'll be honest, I took this "easy way out" myself thinking I'll live comfortably and it will make the family happy. And yet here I am in my forth year of engg thinking, "but this wasnt my dream". Engg is tough, long labs, full days, millions of hours studying...and when its not something you truly want, there's not a whole lot of motivation to succeed and rise ahead which is something that would please Allah swt.
Just know that living comfortably, doesnt equal contentment. And if your not content, your not at peace with yourself. So how is that living comfortably?
Lol, I have to say this though because your my lil cousin, so on behalf of the family, your not allowed to get married until you become a doctor or have your masters in engg or finish law school...lol. (jk jk, had to add it just so aunty doesnt kill me for not encouraging med/engg/law lol)
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