Saturday, March 11, 2006

Eye Opener

Yesterday began with me excited with the progress of ainly. I was tremendously happy with the progress we had in ainly. Therefore my Jummah khutba was going to be thanking Allah for giving us this chance of carrying the torch of Islam. All that drastically changed at lunch.

There was a dance in the middle of the rotunda. Like the usually, so I stepped aside and went to my lockers. Then a bunch of non-Muslims came up to me and ask me “isn’t dancing forbidden in your religion” and I explained to them to my best of my ability and told them though I am not a scholar. “Then I ask why?” They look at me, then the gaze wander off to the direction of the rotunda. “No reason.” I didn’t believe them I rushed to the rotunda and lo and behold it was Muslim guys and girls dancing. Some of these Muslim brothers and sister I regarded highly as leaders for ainly this year and the upcoming year. I felt a sharp pain, I couldn’t bear to watch, I went to my locker wanting to yell, wanting to ask Allah was it my fault, was I not sincere enough, did I not to a good job in carrying the torch of Allah.

My Jummah khutba changed I wanted to go rank on them. I wanted to tell them this is why innocent kids are dieing in Iraq, Sudan; this is why Muslims are being oppressed that every time u shake your booty another innocent life was lost. Allah does not change the state of the Ummah unless we change ourselves. We have so much opportunity here to make a difference but yet we don’t. We don’t! There are people dying out there getting hacked to pieces and what are we doing here. We all have a responsibility. We have to make an effort for change and if no one is affected by it remember that actions are based by intentions.

After the dance people kept on approaching me asking me what’s wrong. I just didn’t want to talk about; I was trying to be patience. Then one of the sisters came up to me, which participated in the dance and ask me what were doing with some upcoming program. I respect this sister a lot. Maybe that’s why I snapped. I know it was wrong of me but I snapped. I started yelling at her and saying stuff like I don’t care and I don’t want to work with people who put themselves before Allah. She looked at me and gave me a blank look. She knew I was right but she also knew they way I told her, was wrong, she stared at me even though it was less than a second I still cant get that stare out of my head, tears began to roll down her check then she just ran ran. I realized my mistake and I went to talk to her and I apologize we both realize that we had committed a mistake. I told her that we are all humans and we all make mistakes and it’s how we react to our mistakes that differentiate us from everyone else.

I decided to do the Jummah khutba about a test, this Dunya. I explain to everyone that this Dunya is just a test of how much we truly love Allah? How much are we willing to sacrifice for Allah? I also told them that in Islam u can have fun but in certain boundaries. Then in the second part of the khutba I told them that whoever made a mistake, go back to Allah and ask for forgiveness and seek his mercy.

Sheikh Hamza Yusuf said it the best that there is two types of people in this world one who has the Dunya in his heart and the others have the Dunya in their hands. Lets control the Dunya, and not let the Dunya control us.

18 Comments:

Blogger SStudios said...

Don't get a big head, but sometimes.. sometimes, you're the man Nawid :).

8:52 AM  
Blogger the voices within said...

I won't say anything but just that I agree with Muntaka on this one.

6:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you are a strong person, honest, you work for the Ummah and you work others to better themselves, may Allah guide you to happiness and love, your words take me away. And yes we are all humans , without mistakes, we can't see or reach our true potential.

Wa Salam your sister in Islam

3:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was touched by the compassion within you. And I thought that I'd take the opportunity to tell you, because you probably don't realize this enough yourself...the influence that you have on people is truly unimaginable. I see the passion in you and the devotion which is ever so vibrant from within you and I am truly touched. I just wanted to let you know, that even though at times you think that what you do is unfruitful..let me tell you this..that the impact that you have in the lives of some people is beyond words. In your last blog I was upset to hear that you almost lost hope..but never let that happen, because even though you don't see your difference, it's always there.

7:54 PM  
Blogger Edward Ott said...

I was upset at first reading your article but then i saw that you were able to teach the people in a just and comapsionate manner about there mistake.

but i do want to know where it is stated that dancing is Haram. i have never heard this. mingling of sexes like that and perhaps rude dancing is Haram but i have never heard that dancing in itself is haram.

salam

11:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

GO TO CLASSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!

7:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

GO TO CLASSSSSSS!!!!

7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i feel so dissapointed naweed. i understand ur intention is to show ur "wisdom" off to the world, but never the less foolishly forgetting to consider the feelings of others on posting an event such as this to the world that had not only yourself involved and who might just possibly happen to not appreciate having this thrown out to the world..not to mention exaggerated in a sense. I honestly think your heart is sincerely in the right place-but when you get too pre-occupied in your opinions, your words tend to control you and they become a little unrealistic as a result. Naweed, you can't imagine the respect i have for you..but that just hurt me how you posted this without consideration of others..

9:54 AM  
Blogger SStudios said...

“i feel so dissapointed naweed.”
- Firstly, it’s spelled Nawid (my apologies, I’m not being mean, I’m just a spelling nazi type of person).
- Secondly, disappointed (don’t make me correct your spelling here either :@) in what/who exactly? Disappointed that your brother in Islam Nawid, unlike the great majority of the youth in our day and age, has a soft heart which isn’t willing to accept anything and everything as acceptable? Disappointed that his heart bleeds when he has such high expectations for his friends and Ummah but is suddenly confronted with the image of his Muslim crew lightheartedly dancing in front of everyone in the rotunda? Dancing isn’t the greatest crime in the world, but Nawid, from my experience, is one who tells it like it is and isn’t willing to compromise his values (which are synonymous with the values of Islam) just because everyone else is going “lighten up buddy, we’re just having a bit of fun, we could be doing way worse things”.
There is nothing against fun in Islam, but the Muslims are a people of moderation. There’s a famous saying which goes “the Muslims are a people of smiles, not laughter”. This isn’t in the literal sense, but it’s just emphasizing a point. No one will be able to come up to you and show you an ayah from the Quran showing you that dancing is haram. But then again, there are a lot of things that are “haram” which aren’t explicitly stated to be so. I suggest you check with your local imam and ask him his opinion on Muslim brothers and sisters dancing in the middle of the school at lunch time together. Keep fatwa hunting if you like, but you won’t be very successful.
One doesn’t have to be a scholar to understand that a religion which prescribes dignity, honour, and modesty above all upon its followers and which prescribes a dress code that reveals as little as possible about one’s figure, would at the very least, strongly discourage dancing. The Meccan women even were stopped from putting bangles on their ankles and stamping their feet on the ground to draw attention to their feet and selves. One wonders what the ruling would be about a Muslim girl or guy gyrating their hips and moving their bodies to the rhythm of some song or other.

”i understand ur intention is to show ur "wisdom" off to the world”
- you’re not allowed to judge the intention of others. That is for Allah and Allah only. Stating unequivocally that you “understand” his intention is akin to you claiming that you have access to divine knowledge.
- you go on to say that Nawid’s heart is sincere but here you blatantly make the claim in front of the “world” that he writes and talks about Islam and his Ainlay experience to show off and make people think that he’s wise. I’ll tell you one thing, Nawid IS wise and you know why he’s wise? Because in the tradition of all of the great scholars and men in our history, he knows that he has little wisdom and that there are oceans of knowledge, wisdoms, and understandings which he’ll never taste.

”but never the less foolishly forgetting to consider the feelings of others on posting an event such as this to the world that had not only yourself involved and who might just possibly happen to not appreciate having this thrown out to the world..”
- I highly doubt that Nawid’s blog is read by the entire world. Sure, it’s on the internet but that isn’t necessarily saying that much. Even if you ARE offended (and I’m still trying to understand why you’d be offended), I wouldn’t worry too much about it because I doubt that many people read his blog. He’s a decent enough writer and he’s got some cool things to say once in a while, but really? Really? I’d rather be reading something else than Nawid’s blog (no offence).

”not to mention exaggerated in a sense.”
exaggerated? How so? I don’t know what happened at his school but the account I read originally on his blog seemed so neutral and lacking spicy exaggerations that I gave it little to no thought.

“I honestly think your heart is sincerely in the right place”
- If YOUR heart is in the right place, you would approach him directly OR you could have even sent him an anonymous email from an anonymous email address. Instead, you chose to attack him in front of all of his blog readers and “the world” and made him so concerned that he changed his initial post and put up an apology post when it really wasn’t necessary at all.

”that just hurt me how you posted this without consideration of others..”
- blogs are considered a sort of sacred space where one can vent and let things out without being judged. As long as someone writes about things without explicitly naming people or attacking them, it’s considered okay. Note that Nawid never mentioned any names and he only referred to a relatively large group of people. Also, from what I read originally, he didn’t even say anything all that harsh about the people he was referring to. He just mentioned that he was extremely sad and disappointed in everyone.
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We live in an age of endless relativism where it seems that anything and everything goes. It becomes increasingly difficult to make a stand and say confidently that “this is wrong, I won’t condemn you for it, but my heart bleeds that you, who I love so much, is indulging in this”.
One of my friends (and Nawid’s), his mom said something akin to: “compared to where I come from, this country is cold. Not only is the weather is cold, it seems to have made the hearts of the people here cold”. And if you reflect on that, it’s true. Many of us have cold hearts of stone which aren’t very easily penetrated. We don’t cry for the things that matter and everything just goes over our heads and doesn’t bother us too much. The world collapses around us, our friends are doing this and that, but you know “it’s all good brooo, leave people alone bro, let ‘em do they thangg ya kno? Why you gotta go all religious on ‘em? Give ‘em they space”.

I hope you’ll have it in your heart to forgive Nawid for however he may hurt you. And if you’re a man/woman of true insight who reflects a bit, I think you might end up hugging him (wait, don’t hug him if you’re a girl though :| ) and thanking him for jolting you a bit out of your constructed reality and upsetting you enough to write and think about this whole issue.

7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like #3 above :)

7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

nawid ur an awesome person and muslim... end of story.. never doubt that :D

11:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whoa. What the?

*Note to self* Never ever use that Anonymous button. I hate it with a passion. No offence to those who use it.

6:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

3. Lastly too improve my English

It's spelt "to" not "too"

3:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ugh.. give the guy a break

8:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would like to start off by saying that i am glad you restored your post. I dont think you should have to appologize to anyone about how you felt. In this county u have the right to voice ur opinion and you were...and u did not directly put anyone down because you did not mention anyones name. Regardless Nawid you are a good embassador for Islam just keep on pushing...it may not always be easy but always know that u have touch many hearts and helped save many people. You are a continuous inspiration for all your fellow muslim brothers and sisters inshallah we will all become better people and better muslims.

12:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"ugh.. give the guy a break"

Well, he did say that he wanted to improve his english... so I was just helping him improve it.

1:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Well, he did say that he wanted to improve his english... so I was just helping him improve it."

Well u got a point.. but it could just be a typo

8:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just a friendly note :

this is not english 101 :)

9:00 PM  

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